How To Easily Persuade Others
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Published on 09/23/2009
Persuasion is a powerful tool to help others and help yourself at the same time. Here are some powerful tips.
There are many ways to persuade people. You can influence them by bribery, or by catering to their ego, or by giving them an offer they can't refuse. Some ways will make them feel good, others will make them feel lousy, and want to hunt you down and kill you. In short, there are good ways, and there are bad ways.
In this article, I will be showing you some of the good ways to easily and naturally persuade others. They will enjoy being persuaded, and they will come back for more. And they will tell their friends about you so that you can persuade them as well. Think I'm kidding? Read on.
The first thing you need to do is establish rapport. Rapport is a very powerful situation to be in. It is also one that few people understand. Basically, the state of rapport means that you feel an incredible connection to somebody. Somebody that you just met, or somebody you've known a long time. Powerful persuaders can produce a feeling of rapport in matter of minutes.
So how do you create rapport? Match their world in as many ways as you can. Match the speed at which they talk, match the words they use, match their body language, facial expressions, even the tonality they use. Most people are afraid of getting caught when doing this, but that rarely happens. If it does, all you need to do is say, "Wow, I was thinking the same thing!"
OK, now that you have established rapport like a master Jedi Knight, what next? Start to pull them into your world, slowly. Scratch your ear, and see if they scratch theirs. Tilt your head and see if they follow you. Lean back in your chair, and watch what happens. Once you are leading them, you are ready to pounce, er, persuade.
The first thing you do is elicit their criteria. Criteria are the reasons somebody is doing something. I want to buy a red bicycle because red makes me feel sexy. In this case, feeling sexy is the criterion. I want to fish because I want to maintain good blood pressure. I want to maintain good blood pressure, because I value my health. Personal health is the criterion in this case.
With their criteria, you can carefully craft you message of persuasion, whatever it is you want them to do, so they will readily accept it. These aren't the droids you're looking for. Simply explain to them by doing what you want, they will be satisfying their criteria. If they like to swim because it makes them feel peaceful and relaxed, tell them they can feel peaceful and relaxed doing what you want them to do. Of course, you can't be blatant with this. You'll need to casually introduce the idea into the conversation.
Make sure you remember two things. One is that at first, this will seem awkward, and you feel like you are speaking French. Keep practicing. The second is that once you get the hang of it, resist abusing this new power. Because eliciting and leveraging criteria is very powerful, and you could easily trick people into doing things against their best interest. Be careful out there.
In this article, I will be showing you some of the good ways to easily and naturally persuade others. They will enjoy being persuaded, and they will come back for more. And they will tell their friends about you so that you can persuade them as well. Think I'm kidding? Read on.
The first thing you need to do is establish rapport. Rapport is a very powerful situation to be in. It is also one that few people understand. Basically, the state of rapport means that you feel an incredible connection to somebody. Somebody that you just met, or somebody you've known a long time. Powerful persuaders can produce a feeling of rapport in matter of minutes.
So how do you create rapport? Match their world in as many ways as you can. Match the speed at which they talk, match the words they use, match their body language, facial expressions, even the tonality they use. Most people are afraid of getting caught when doing this, but that rarely happens. If it does, all you need to do is say, "Wow, I was thinking the same thing!"
OK, now that you have established rapport like a master Jedi Knight, what next? Start to pull them into your world, slowly. Scratch your ear, and see if they scratch theirs. Tilt your head and see if they follow you. Lean back in your chair, and watch what happens. Once you are leading them, you are ready to pounce, er, persuade.
The first thing you do is elicit their criteria. Criteria are the reasons somebody is doing something. I want to buy a red bicycle because red makes me feel sexy. In this case, feeling sexy is the criterion. I want to fish because I want to maintain good blood pressure. I want to maintain good blood pressure, because I value my health. Personal health is the criterion in this case.
With their criteria, you can carefully craft you message of persuasion, whatever it is you want them to do, so they will readily accept it. These aren't the droids you're looking for. Simply explain to them by doing what you want, they will be satisfying their criteria. If they like to swim because it makes them feel peaceful and relaxed, tell them they can feel peaceful and relaxed doing what you want them to do. Of course, you can't be blatant with this. You'll need to casually introduce the idea into the conversation.
Make sure you remember two things. One is that at first, this will seem awkward, and you feel like you are speaking French. Keep practicing. The second is that once you get the hang of it, resist abusing this new power. Because eliciting and leveraging criteria is very powerful, and you could easily trick people into doing things against their best interest. Be careful out there.