All That You Desire
- By Wendy Ann Zellea
- Published 06/2/2010
- Advice
- Unrated
We are taught to not be ourselves from the time we are very young. What we must do when we become adults is say what we want. When you want to say no, then say it and when you want to say yes, say that as well. You have the right to say whatever you want. Of course, there are different ways to say the same thing, but the important point is to be honest with yourself about what you truly desire.
When you were a young child, you said yes and no without hesitation. Saying yes didn't cause you too much trouble, but as soon as you learned to say no, you ardently began to state your objections to all limitations that were being placed on you. How wonderful you felt when you discovered you could say no. The world was yours. Everything was going to be your way, exactly how you wished. What could be better? All your little life people had been telling you no and now you had joined the no club. You could tell them no.
However, your joy was short-lived. You listened to others when they said no, but the same result was not achieved when you said no back. In fact, quite the opposite happened. When you said no, your mother and father got angry. You might have tried a few more times to tell them no, but after awhile you stopped. That was when you became disconnected with your feelings; you couldn't say no, so why bother? You began to do what others wanted you to do, not what you wanted. After a while you stopped even thinking about what you truly wanted, no less trying to achieve it.
Then came the teenage years, when your desires began to re-surface and the choice was before you to continue to do what your parents and the world expected of you, to follow your friends or to do what you wanted. Almost all of us go a little wild in our teenage years, the degree being determined by how repressed we have been and our individual personalities.
It's the time of our lives when we have the opportunity to become unique beings or to follow the crowd. Those of us who choose individuality will be loners and those who follow others will have the approval of their peers and perhaps their family. The rewards of approval are diminished, however, by the separation we have from ourselves when we turn ourselves over to the crowd. The loneliness of those who choose to go their own way is lessened by the feelings of fulfillment that being connected to one's self affords.
It's our responsibility as adults to create our own beliefs. We learn the ideas of our parents and teachers when we are children and when we approach adulthood we begin to create our own truth. The teenage years are the testing grounds and the years following are the proving grounds.
Get to the root of what you really want. Do what makes you happy. Why not? Now you might ask, "Suppose I don't want to go to work? Should I quit my job and just take my happiness to the grocery store?" No, that is not what I'm suggesting. Do you like your paycheck and the living it provides you? I do. So why would you want to quit your job and have no money? Most people wouldn't even know what to do if they left their job--even if they still had the money.
The point is to decide what it is that you really want. Is it that you don't want to work or is it that you want to do something different? I was able to leave one job, and start a new career that allowed me to maintain my standard of living.
My desire was to work at what I loved, not just to have money and not have to work. So get to the root of your desire. Ask for what you want. Who should you ask, you ask? Ask who you think you should ask. Ask life, or the universe or yourself, but ask. Angels are waiting all the time to help you; all you need to do is ask. If you never try, you will never know.
When you were a young child, you said yes and no without hesitation. Saying yes didn't cause you too much trouble, but as soon as you learned to say no, you ardently began to state your objections to all limitations that were being placed on you. How wonderful you felt when you discovered you could say no. The world was yours. Everything was going to be your way, exactly how you wished. What could be better? All your little life people had been telling you no and now you had joined the no club. You could tell them no.
However, your joy was short-lived. You listened to others when they said no, but the same result was not achieved when you said no back. In fact, quite the opposite happened. When you said no, your mother and father got angry. You might have tried a few more times to tell them no, but after awhile you stopped. That was when you became disconnected with your feelings; you couldn't say no, so why bother? You began to do what others wanted you to do, not what you wanted. After a while you stopped even thinking about what you truly wanted, no less trying to achieve it.
Then came the teenage years, when your desires began to re-surface and the choice was before you to continue to do what your parents and the world expected of you, to follow your friends or to do what you wanted. Almost all of us go a little wild in our teenage years, the degree being determined by how repressed we have been and our individual personalities.
It's the time of our lives when we have the opportunity to become unique beings or to follow the crowd. Those of us who choose individuality will be loners and those who follow others will have the approval of their peers and perhaps their family. The rewards of approval are diminished, however, by the separation we have from ourselves when we turn ourselves over to the crowd. The loneliness of those who choose to go their own way is lessened by the feelings of fulfillment that being connected to one's self affords.
It's our responsibility as adults to create our own beliefs. We learn the ideas of our parents and teachers when we are children and when we approach adulthood we begin to create our own truth. The teenage years are the testing grounds and the years following are the proving grounds.
Get to the root of what you really want. Do what makes you happy. Why not? Now you might ask, "Suppose I don't want to go to work? Should I quit my job and just take my happiness to the grocery store?" No, that is not what I'm suggesting. Do you like your paycheck and the living it provides you? I do. So why would you want to quit your job and have no money? Most people wouldn't even know what to do if they left their job--even if they still had the money.
The point is to decide what it is that you really want. Is it that you don't want to work or is it that you want to do something different? I was able to leave one job, and start a new career that allowed me to maintain my standard of living.
My desire was to work at what I loved, not just to have money and not have to work. So get to the root of your desire. Ask for what you want. Who should you ask, you ask? Ask who you think you should ask. Ask life, or the universe or yourself, but ask. Angels are waiting all the time to help you; all you need to do is ask. If you never try, you will never know.
Wendy Ann Zellea
Wendy Ann Zellea is a Software Analyst, Web Designer, Merkeba Reiki Master and Writer. She lived in Belize, Central America for 15 years, learning customs and healing practices of indigenous cultures. She is author of "Do You Want to Be Happy NOW?", "Life is Good, All is Well" and publishes the Happy Awareness EZine, Happy Awareness She is on the board of Association for Higher Awareness and Growing Consciousness.
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