Does it seem like you keep running into the same man? This reader thought so too:
"I don't know what is wrong with me. I am only attracted to a certain type of guy, yet this type is clearly not right for me because all my relationships never work out. So what am I supposed to do? How can I make myself be attracted to someone who is good for me? How can you change the things that attract you to someone so I stop picking the same guy over and over?

What a brilliant question. It has been said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, and I would be inclined to agree. Do something different! Good for you that you recognize you seem to be in a going nowhere pattern here. Now what to do about it? Well I would say start first with yourself. Are you happy with you, your life, your job, your interests? Those are all good beginnings. Being happy in yourself is not only very attractive to healthy, stable men, but when you are engaged in an activity you enjoy, it gives you a chance to meet like minded people.

Next decide the kind of men that you DO want to attract, or be attracted to. You have figured out what you don't want. Make a list of the kind of things you would like your ideal man to have. Put yourself in a position to be with people of that quality. Know "What good looks like to you." If you are interested in artsy guys- go to an art gallery. Step out of your comfort zone a bit, go ahead and date a guy you "wouldn't normally date" don't put pressure on yourself to be attracted to him- just go and enjoy yourself. Folks often get caught up in deciding that some one is not their "type" or trying to figure out if they would be "the one" they forget to just have fun and enjoy each others company.

I once went on a last minute date with a guy that I had already decided in my head wasn't my type. He didn't look like the kind of guy I "usually like" and he did a job that I had decided wasn't a good fit for me. I went anyway and soon I couldn't stop thinking about him. It was refreshing and even though it ultimately didn't work out long term, I learned to just be open to experiences and enjoying ones self. I have now since looked toward a different "type" and have had more rewarding experiences. Love will find its way to you quicker when its not forced!