How Do We Find The Love That We Want?
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Rick Schaefer
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Law of Attraction By Rick Schaefer
Published on 04/25/2010
Finding true love is a continual quest for most people. Does it really need to be as hard as it sometimes seems it is? The answer to that question may be surprising to hear.
People all seem to have a common question about relationships: I want a lover who loves me completely, who supports me in my dreams and goals, who gives me moral support and boosts me up when I'm down. Where is this person? I want him/her in my life!
These are great questions to ask, and wonderful desires to have. They reflect what most humankind has in common: the need to be loved, to feel safe and to be seen.
And these questions are such a great place to start, in achieving the fulfillment of the desires. Once we ask the questions the answers are formulated and brought to us. Indeed, that very person that we so desire to have in our lives becomes available to us immediately. The circumstances and events are cleverly arranged by the universe at the unseen level; and our job is to line up with answer so that we can see it and let it in.
So, we need to know what the path is to line up with the answer. The path is found in understanding how the law of attraction helps us in this quest and then applying it. How does the law of attraction work? Well, simply said, it is 'what is like unto itself is drawn'. In other words, we are walking magnets and we magnetize to us everything that we are. Now it becomes clearer how that person we so dearly desire to know is going to come into our lives: they come once we become those qualities that we want them to have
This is the awareness that most people don't think about! We usually think about what we want the other person to be and to give us, and more often do not think about what we want to bring to them and be for them. And that's exactly why they aren't showing up. What shows up is what we are right now being.
Here's where it gets really fun: the first person that we need to be supportive of and unconditionally loving of, is our own self! That is great news because it means that we don't have to wait for some other person to come along before we can practice the art of unconditional love. What we do have to do is figure out how to receive it from ourselves.
Loving ourselves is a concept that is not often taught or encouraged. Yet it is essential if we are to have that kind of a partner. This is one of those areas of life that the inner shift is created in baby steps; especially for folks who are accustomed to habitually criticizing themselves. Take heart though, it CAN be done, and you can start right now!
Start each day with the commitment to really care for yourself in your thoughts and emotions, to offer self love to yourself. Be kind to yourself; be as gentle as you would be with a small, innocent, trusting child. Give yourself the gifts of laughter and love every day. Be allowing and accepting of who you are. Just this personal kindness alone will start shifting you, and bringing you closer to your beloved. Let yourself be your first beloved, and your wonderful partner will stroll into your life, easily.
These are great questions to ask, and wonderful desires to have. They reflect what most humankind has in common: the need to be loved, to feel safe and to be seen.
And these questions are such a great place to start, in achieving the fulfillment of the desires. Once we ask the questions the answers are formulated and brought to us. Indeed, that very person that we so desire to have in our lives becomes available to us immediately. The circumstances and events are cleverly arranged by the universe at the unseen level; and our job is to line up with answer so that we can see it and let it in.
So, we need to know what the path is to line up with the answer. The path is found in understanding how the law of attraction helps us in this quest and then applying it. How does the law of attraction work? Well, simply said, it is 'what is like unto itself is drawn'. In other words, we are walking magnets and we magnetize to us everything that we are. Now it becomes clearer how that person we so dearly desire to know is going to come into our lives: they come once we become those qualities that we want them to have
This is the awareness that most people don't think about! We usually think about what we want the other person to be and to give us, and more often do not think about what we want to bring to them and be for them. And that's exactly why they aren't showing up. What shows up is what we are right now being.
Here's where it gets really fun: the first person that we need to be supportive of and unconditionally loving of, is our own self! That is great news because it means that we don't have to wait for some other person to come along before we can practice the art of unconditional love. What we do have to do is figure out how to receive it from ourselves.
Loving ourselves is a concept that is not often taught or encouraged. Yet it is essential if we are to have that kind of a partner. This is one of those areas of life that the inner shift is created in baby steps; especially for folks who are accustomed to habitually criticizing themselves. Take heart though, it CAN be done, and you can start right now!
Start each day with the commitment to really care for yourself in your thoughts and emotions, to offer self love to yourself. Be kind to yourself; be as gentle as you would be with a small, innocent, trusting child. Give yourself the gifts of laughter and love every day. Be allowing and accepting of who you are. Just this personal kindness alone will start shifting you, and bringing you closer to your beloved. Let yourself be your first beloved, and your wonderful partner will stroll into your life, easily.